🌱 What If You’ve Outgrown the Life You Built?

By Jill Edmonds

There comes a moment, quietly for some, suddenly for others, when you look around at the life you’ve created and think…

“This doesn’t quite fit anymore.”

It’s not always a dramatic crisis. Sometimes it’s just a subtle restlessness. A low hum of this isn’t it, even though you can’t quite explain why.

You go through the motions—work, relationships, routines—but something’s missing. You can’t help but wonder: What happened to me? What changed?

And the answer, gently, is… you did.

✧ You Are Allowed to Outgrow Things

Outgrowing is not failing.
Outgrowing is not being ungrateful.
Outgrowing is simply part of being human.

We evolve. We learn. We get older, wiser, softer. And what once felt right no longer does.

Think of a plant outgrowing its pot. The roots push against the sides, not because the pot was bad—but because it's time for more space.

✧ Signs You May Be Outgrowing Your Current Life

• You feel disconnected from your job, even though it once gave you pride.
• You’ve ticked all the boxes, but you still feel empty.
• The friendships or routines that used to nourish you now leave you drained.
• You keep thinking, “Is this it?”

None of these mean you’re broken.
They mean something inside you is ready for a new chapter.

✧ Gentle Questions to Reflect On

You don’t need to make drastic changes overnight. But you can start by listening inwards:

• What parts of my life feel heavy or hollow?
• Where am I pretending to care, but deep down… I don’t?
• What small moment recently gave me energy, curiosity, or peace?

These questions don’t demand immediate answers.
They’re invitations—to be honest with yourself.

✧ Gratitude and Growth Can Coexist

Sometimes we stay in situations out of guilt.
“It’s fine.”
“I should be grateful.”
“So many people have it worse.”

Yes, gratitude matters. But it doesn’t cancel out your longing.
You can be thankful for what was and still want something different.

Gratitude looks back. Growth looks forward.
You’re allowed to hold both.

✧ Make Space for What’s Next

You don’t have to know the full plan.
You just need a little courage and a little space.

That might mean:

• Saying no to one thing that drains you
• Saying yes to something that sparks your interest
• Taking time for reflection without pressure to decide

This isn’t about reinventing your life overnight. It’s about listening when something inside whispers, “It’s time.”

✧ A Quiet Invitation

If any of this resonates—if you feel like you’re in between chapters—you’re not alone.

I work with people every week who feel this quiet nudge toward change. It’s not always comfortable, but it is deeply human.

And often, it leads somewhere beautiful.

—
Jill x

P.S. If this spoke to something you’ve been feeling, I’d love to hear from you. You can read more articles like this at jilledmonds.co.uk, or simply reply to this message and say hello.